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Expectations…


What’s wrong with expectation? Mankind survives on this sole word of ‘expectation’. We expect to be happy in the future (ignoring the present of course), we expect to earn a great deal of money, we expect to travel around the world and many many more. We not only expect something out of ourselves but expect something from others also. But most people forget that some others are also expecting something from them and I feel here is the weakest link for relationships.

Say, you(A) are close to someone(B) and you expect something out of them. But, they dont meet your expectation not once but many times over a period of time. Then, you lower your expectation and still ‘B’ doesnt meet yours. This cycle would continue till you end up with little expectation from ‘B’. ‘B’ brags on and on with his/her own stories least bothered about what ‘A’ is feeling/thinking amd whats more, shrugs off whatever ‘A’ is saying. At this particular point of time, you(A) really feel that the relationship is not worth the time, effort and resources. Then there are other people in your life who go great lengths at making you happy, make you feel that you have been with them for years and yet you don’t give the required credit. They are excited about meeting you, talking to you or for that matter, just spend some time with you and yet we tend to ignore.
The problem seems to be not with ‘B’ fundamentally, but with ‘A’. ‘A’ has simply not allocated the right kind of effort towards the right kind of people.’B’is some other person who is interested in something else than ‘A’ seems to think…a classic case of misunderstanding the extent and depth of a relationship. Well, to say the least, when ‘A’ is not clear of his priorities, his relationships…does he really have the right to expect something out of somebody? Can’t he just take a step back and look at the various relationships he has and allocate the right(let me say, optimum) effort to the right kind of people? Is ‘A’ looking only at part of the conversation and not the total (or the essence of) communication between him/herself and ‘B’ and jumping to some kind of conclusion about expectations and the outcomes or is it something else?

Haven’t we all gone through this? We can place ourselves at places ‘A’ as well as ‘B’ because they are literally two sides of same coin. Can we just take a step back and look at everything else afresh again??

The Letter ‘M’

The most powerful, influential and intriguing letter across all languages is the 12th letter of the Roman alphabet and the 13th letter of the English alphabet – the letter ‘M‘ and my emphasis would be the words beginning with the letter ‘M’ and just a peek into its magnificient power.

To start with, all ancient civilizations – the oldest ones recorded were that of Mohenjadaro in India, Mesopotamia in the Middle East and Mayan in the Americas. Two of the most powerful dynasties to rule over India in the B.C as well as the A.D were the Mauryan and the Mughal dynasties.

Science has proved that Man evolved from Monkey. Mother is the sole purpose of how a Man exists. We all would like to be Models of perfection. While we had the Mahatma enchanting the masses down here in India, at about the same time, we had Mussolini machinating like a Machiavelli in Europe. While we had the greatest and perhaps the longest epic which enlightened mankind – Mahabharat, we had an equally oppressive ‘Mein Kempf’.
While we had Mickey mouse entertaining people all around, we had Model T motorcar to depict what modernity can bring about. We had the beautiful Madhuri, have the sexy Mallika and erstwhile dream of every man – Marlyn Monroe.

The world today runs around Money. No wonder that two of the biggest brands in the world are McDonalds and Mont Blanc. We have advanced weapons in Machine guns and Missiles, again developed by Man due to excessive itch on his Medulla oblongata.

One of the greatest revolutions of the 20th century was Marxism, one of the greatest mysteries unsolved being the Mummy and one of the most mind-boggling roles in Movies being the role of Morpheus in Matrix. Think of controversy, and one of the greatest controversies involves Mary Magdalene. One of the most feared groups in today’s world is the Mafia and the costliest drug available is Marijuana. Not to leave all us far behind is the Murphy’s law which would remind us of the reality everytime we think of some mouthwatering prospect.

From the Macrocosm to Micro-organism, this letter influences everyday, every moment. From the Morning of our life to our Mourning, this letter is forever to stay with us and that my dear friends in summary is the magnificience of the letter.

P.S: Last but not the least, my HR Head’s name is Mandeep Maitra (For God’s sake, save me from this letter ‘M’).

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